• Momentum not Perfection

    Over 40 men in the past 12 months have been part of one to one coaching with us. They are "living in a way today that will help you thrive tomorrow." It has been humbling to witness and work within their success stories. Our goal is simply to give them the tools to #Makeitso. Last week we began looking at the Principles that are at the core of what we coach, and what I have learned in my almost 25 years of coaching and counseling.

    The first principle was - Everything is “figure-outable.” and the take away was this question - who is “coaching” or “mentoring you?” We all do need someone who will be our biggest fan, someone who will keep us accountable, someone who will authentically give us perspective. Someone who is already at tomorrow, and will help us live that way today. Having a coach is imperative to seeing things as “figure-outable”. If you don’t have ‘a biggest fan’ in your personal goals - click here because its time to get one.

    Principle # 2 - Momentum not Perfection
    Uncertainty and fear try to paralyze. It’s why, whenever I felt anxiety rise, I prayed for guidance, sent an email, made a call, took some action. Certainty feels good but can lull us to sleep. Uncertainty prompts you to get moving. I believe we often live in one of four zones: Preparation, Apathy, Chaos or Momentum. The goal is Momentum. Being in momentum, and not waiting for “the perfect” moment, keeps us in ‘motion’ toward our goals. Now, its not just motion for the sake of motion, its directed and goal based actions, but it’s momentum not perfection that will win the day.

    When we hit a road block, stumble on a steadback, or fall into a failure we are often moved out of the Momentum Zone into one of the other zones... we either kick back to the 'preparation' of starting to try to find a way out, we roll into 'apathy' with a desire to wait it out, or we jump into 'chaos' trying to just get out. But it is the steady 'momentum' that actually ensures the job is done. Now that is so easy to say, and yet such a mountain to do. Often, by the time we recongnize where we are, the momentum is a struggle. Again, its why one to one coaching is helpful. In one to one coaching you are able to have someone who instantly "knows the zone" and has the tools and the accountability that helps you 'get into the zone' that makes the difference.  

    So Principle # 2’s take away is this question: What zone are you in most often? Here is a good way to know. Do a simple "24 Hour Zone Time Challenge". Write down (or voice record), every ten minutes what you are doing. Of course when your sleeping you don't have to wake up everyday ten minutes to say your sleeping. Then next day, take a look. How much 'momentum" toward living in a way today so you can thrive tomorrow was involved? If you are finding that its not momentum, then with respect to your goals - what is it - apathy, chaos, preparation? If you do this challenge, honestly, it will change your perspective on your day. It will also authentically tell you if you are working toward your goals. If you want more details on the four zones, where you are at, and how to get into the Momentum Zone most often - click here I would love to tell you more.

    Do consider being part of the Phoenix Men who are daily succeding, and LIVING IN A WAY TODAY THAT WILL HELP YOU THRIVE TOMORROW!  Everything "figure-outable", but you have to be totally focussed on Momentum not Perfection!

    So – let’s #Makeitso!


  • Everything is “figure-outable.”

    Over the past 12 months, here at Phoenix Life Coaching Canada, we have been so humbled to successfully work 'one on one' with over 40 clients. When it comes to their goals we are laser focussed to #Makeitso. We are dedicated to helping you celebrate your ‘wins’, help you tackle your ‘woes’ and make your ‘wants’ something that becomes a met achievement. We are all about one purpose: to help you Start Living in a Way Today that will Help You Thrive Tomorrow.

    Our #Makeitso Movement is made up of five principles. Over the next few weeks lets look at these principles.

    Principle # 1 - Everything is “figure-outable.”
    I can’t remember where I heard this made-up word, but I do remember it came at a critical point in my own life. You see, if you’re not careful you can convince yourself that you’re not smart enough or talented enough by yourself to figure stuff out. And in some ways, that’s true. It’s why you need to surround yourself with people who can help you figure things out. I’m fortunate to have surrounded myself with incredible people who help me figure out things way beyond my skill set. As I often tell people, I have a very limited skill set. I can coach, people manage, speak and write, in that order. Together with some amazing mentors in my life, I have figured out all sorts of things that were seemingly not “figure-outable.” If you’re putting off a move because you’re convinced you couldn’t figure it out, let me give you some encouragement. If I can, you can. But let me also be transparent; you can't do it alone.

    So Principle # 1’s take away is this question - who is “coaching” or “mentoring you?”. The Value of Coaching is clear: Increased self-awareness, better understanding of how to leverage strengths, the ability to recognize other people’s strengths, learning new ways of doing things, challenging existing bias and barriers, accountability to implement and take action. 

    Individual coaching typically happens in weekly 30- to 60-minute blocks of time via phone or video conference. Each week our clients continue to show up, they are ready, and are making it so! They show up every week! That is the key! The only participants are the coach and the client, and the coaching program is 100% customized to the individual's development needs. If you don’t have ‘a biggest fan’ in your personal goals, the momentum is slower. The reason is rather simple, "everything is "figure-outable", but only with a nudge from someone who sees a way, and helps you to make yours. A coach keeps you curious, accountable, vulnerable but most of all successful. We are often focussed on today, and we dream about tomorrow. A coach is already at tomorrow, and draws you there by helping you live that way today. 

    I would love to make you part of the Phoenix Men who are daily succeding, and LIVING IN A WAY TODAY THAT WILL HELP YOU THRIVE TOMORROW !  Drop me an email today, let's discuss making everything "figure-outable", 

    So – let’s #Makeitso!


  • Do you know any Turkeys?

    Thanksgiving is a wonderful time for us to reflect. It is also a time to do some inventory, and to ask what we are grateful for? But Thanksgiving also tends to be a moment when we think about Turkeys. Yes, the turkey that might be on our table, but also often what comes to mind in our reflection is “The Turkeys of Life.”

    The Turkeys of Life… are the events which challenge us. The friendship which baffle us. The family which perturbs us. The workplace which discourages us.

    Isn’t it easy IN OUR LIVES to allow a traffic jam to all of a sudden ruin our day?

    Isn’t it easy to allow a rude comment to make the Sun look dimmer?

    Isn’t it easy to allow a phone call, a piece of mail, a wacky neighbour, an unfocused co worker, to just make us say - “You Turkey - you are killing me!”

    Thanksgiving is a time, yes for reflection, but also to refocus ourselves so that even when “the Turkey comes a calling”, we can instead focus on the essential people, the exact occasion, the intentional grace that we are meant to experience.

    Thanksgiving is a time of decision to say that “I won’t let the Turkey get to me” - or, maybe put this - “I won’t let the Turkey eat at me instead”.

    Thanksgiving is a time of gratitude, but also a time to make some decisions about those “Turkeys” we need to move on from, carry on from and strive on from.

    With our #Makeitso attitude - let’s make the decision to give thanks for all we have - and even be thankful for the Turkeys! It will make us more centred in true and lasting gratitude all year long.

    Happy Thanksgiving… and … remember you can #Makeitso!


  • Prompts to Get You Journaling (even when your mind is blank)

    So this is the third in our series on Journaling. It comes as a group of Phoenix Men are well into our Autumn Challenge (and they crushing it by the way). But sometimes its hard to know what to write, so here are some Prompts To Get You Started

    The most noticeable thought in my mind today is:

    One interesting part of my dreams of late is: 

    Today I could not live without:

    I enjoy myself the most when:

    When I imagine I have no problem to solve, here is what is left:

    A year from now I think I’d like to:

    I know my best characteristics are:

    If fear wasn’t a thing, my best day would look like this:

    Why do these help?  Well, as we have been demonstrating journalling is about tracking our "wins, woes and wants." We can do that by simply writing down, recording or in a point form way tracking the progress of our day. The reality is when we do that we grow in clairity because we can see progress, notice pitfalls, and acknwledge pivotol people, places or points in our journey. These help us to make better decisions, outline better pathways and determine better successes for ourselves.

    Sometimes though, after a long day or a blah day, we wonder what to write, so the above prompts get us started... and they get our minds racing toward our "wins, woes and wants."

    Journaling is widely recognized as a healthy practice. Research shows that writing down thoughts and feelings can decrease stress and increase empathy, focus and optimism.

    Typically journaling is considered “free” writing or a record of occurrences. On the surface, writing down whatever you’re thinking or experiencing appears simple. But people (especially men) tend to avoid journaling because it feels difficult, frustrating and confusing. 

    For those who struggle with self-confidence, performance anxiety and worry, journaling can feel like a nasty assignment to avoid. 

    So the Autumn Challenge

    Our Autumn Challenge invites you to commit to journaling for 30 days. If you quit a week into your journaling attempt, you won’t see results. But practice reflection for a month, and you will feel the positive effects. Push through the resistance and every day after will feel easier. 

    So why do the Autumn Challenge? You’ll gain perspective and live with gratitude. You’ll also supercharge your clarity and make better decisions. If you don’t think so then prove me wrong. Try reflecting on your wins, woes and wants for 30 days, write them down, consider then and tell me if you do or don’t have a better sense of your circumstances, clarity of thought, and gratitude for life.

    Drop me an email if you need some more insights or “how to’s ”. I would love to make you part of the Phoenix Men who are journaling daily and LIVING IN A WAY TODAY THAT WILL HELP YOU THRIVE TOMORROW !

    So – let’s #Makeitso!


  • Myths of Journaling

    Welcome to Part 2 of our series on Journaling. We have started this, our first series in our blog,  as many of our clients take part in our Autumn Challenge – a commitment to 30 Days of Journaling. We have seen transformative steps forward by our clients through this challenge - greater clairity, gratitude and goals. I will touch on the challenge shortly, but lets set forth with part two.

    Last week we tackled 4 Things We Need for Journaling and today let’s tackle the 4 Myths of Journaling:

    There is a 'right way" to Journal: Many people think that in order to journal the "right" way, you need some kind of special notebook, profound matter or even deeply accurate method. The key to journaling is actually only one thing – “to start & stick with it”. As we mentioned last week select a Style, Format, Time and Trigger, and then just start (in point form or full sentence, in picture or even voice reminder) and put down what you are pondering or paused by. It be might as simple as Wins, Woes and Wants (as we teach) or more fluid sentences on life.

    You don’t have anything deep to write about. Another mental barrier preventing many people from journaling is the belief you have nothing to write about. Unless you live in a bubble, you have some sort of interaction, and so you have something to write about. So again, the key ... “to start & stick with it.”

    Journaling is for narcissists. This is one of the odder myths out there. If you think about it, journaling is actually talking about others and other things first, and then how they touch your life. Journaling is for anyone who wants to ponder the future and even more so be their best selves in it. So in fact it is about a better you - not a selfish you. 

    Journaling takes a lot of time. This is a big myth. The method we teach takes 15 minutes. Here is how it works:

    Try reflecting on your Wins (the positive things that happened), Woes (the struggles of the day) and Wants (your hopes for the day). If your doing it in the morning then the previous day is what you ponder.

    Commit to 15 minutes, write them down, (point form, sentence, pictures, cartoons, Greek letters of the alphabet ) - what ever works for you …

    Pause and consider them and just simply get a ‘gut sense’ of your personal awareness of your circumstances, clarity of thought, and gratitude for the day.

    Finish by writing a closing statement like - “I felt overall pretty positive today” or “today was a struggle” or “I couldn’t think clearly today” or “hope is in the air” … what ever it might be that best describes what the day (or the day before) was all about.

    So the Autumn Challenge

    For many, journaling can be painful. But it doesn’t have to be. Our Autumn Challenge invites you to commit to journaling for 30 days. If you quit a week into your journaling attempt, you won’t see results. But practice reflection for a month, and you will feel the positive effects. Push through the resistance and every day after will feel easier. 

    So why do the Autumn Challenge? You’ll gain perspective and live with gratitude. You’ll also supercharge your clarity and make better decisions. If you don’t think so then prove me wrong. Try reflecting on your wins, woes and wants for 30 days, write them down, consider then and tell me if you do or don’t have a better sense of your circumstances, clarity of thought, and gratitude for life.

    Drop me an email if you need some more insights or “how to’s ”. I would love to make you part of the Phoenix Men who are journaling daily and LIVING IN A WAY TODAY THAT WILL HELP YOU THRIVE TOMORROW !

    So – let’s #Makeitso!

     


  • The Autumn Challenge: 30 Days of Journaling

    So, with this blog article, will begin our first “3 Part Series” and launch our Autumn Challenge (insert: Loud applause)! 

    On this first day of Autumn – lets commit to 30 days of Journaling (I will tell you why at the end of this article). This week we will explore 4 Things We Need For Journaling. And then we will tackle the Myths of Journaling, and the week after that we will launch into some Prompts to Get You Journaling (even when your mind is blank). So – let’s get going and #Makeitso!

    4 Things We Need For Journaling

    Keeping a journal. Marcus Aurelius had one. So did Mark Twain. Theodore Roosevelt wrote faithfully in his. Da Vinci, Ernest Hemingway (to name a few), great men have taken time to writing and reviewing their actions, thoughts, and (yikes yes) even our feelings. 

    But Journaling has become a lost art. As a society we seem less focussed on self-reflection, and more so on self-promotion. A “selfie” and even "tiktoking" our every move (not to mention every meal) has become the core of what we do. “To Tweet” is seen as a status update with more value, then to take a moment interiorily to ‘self update’ how we are really doing. And while there’s nothing wrong with “updating our followers”,  we also need to take time to “update ourselves” on how we really are.  Simply put, we need journals now more than ever.

    Many of our most excelling clients here at Phoenix Life Coaching Canada, track the start of their success, to our process of encouraging them toward journaling as a valuable tool for personal reflection and growth. However, without the right tools, and a little guidance, it can be one of the most difficult habits to establish. Even with this resistance, there is a tremendous value that comes with daily reflection, and contrary to the usual perceived large hurdle, it doesn’t have to take a lot of time. Journaling can be daunting for any number of reasons. But you can change that. Here are four tips to get you started.

    Pick a Style. You don’t need a ‘book.’ You may prefer a legal pad, notebook, or journal you already have on hand.  Some people even use their laptop and keep it all in a word document. It can be whatever provides the space you need to write and whatever you are comfortable with. So first tip - pick a style you like  - and stick to it.

    Pick a Format. The blank page (or screen) is scary. It can be intimidating to know what to write and leads to wasted time. So find something that guides your daily reflection. Our Clients at Phoenix Life Coaching Canada start off with three questions:  “What was your ‘win’ today? What was your “woe” today? and “What is your "want" today?” In other words, something that went well, something that tanked, and something you wish. Just determine what prompts will encourage you to reflect, but give our three a try  - and stick to it.

    Pick a Time. Whether you decide to journal in the morning or evening, pick a time. You may have to rearrange part of your daily routine to fit journaling in, but you want it to become a natural rhythm in your day. If you are a 'morning person' well you will find it easier in the morning. If you are a 'night owl' same goes. If you are not sure, try either - and stick to it.

    Pick a Trigger. Like any habit, to start you will need a daily cue to prompt the intended action. This could be a calendar alert or alarm. You will also need to set a trigger when to stop. Some give up after 5 minutes, but we recommend a minimum of 15 minutes a day to write down your wins, woes and wants. Select your trigger - and stick to it.

    So the Autumn Challenge

    For many, journaling can be painful. But it doesn’t have to be. Our Autumn Challenge invites you to commit to journaling for 30 days (yep you probably caught on) - and stick to it. If you quit a week into your journaling attempt, you won’t see results. But practice reflection for a month, and you will feel the positive effects. Push through the resistance and every day after will feel easier the key is - stick to it.  

    So why do the Autumn Challenge? You’ll gain perspective and live with gratitude. You’ll also supercharge your clarity and make better decisions. If you don’t think so - then prove me wrong.

    So how do you take the Autumn Challenge? Go over the 4 tips and select a Style, Format, Time and Trigger. Then try reflecting on, and writing down (even in point form), your wins, woes and wants for 30 days. Commit to 15 minutes, write them down, consider them and just simply track your sense of your awareness of your circumstances, clarity of thought, and gratitude for life.

    Drop me an email if you need some more insights or “how to’s ” or you want some accompanyment and accountability in the challenge. If you get stuck along the way, or are having a hard time "sticking to it"; let me know. I would love to make you part of the Phoenix Men who are journaling daily, and living in a way today that will help you thrive tomorrow !

    So – let’s #Makeitso!

     


  • Who is your boss?

    Anyone who knows me realizes that, well, “I talk to everyone”. The hardest place for me to stand is an elevator. Convention says you don’t talk to people in an elevator, goodness, I find that challenging. But to my shock, and glee, the other day someone said "hello" on the elevator. I felt like I had won the lottery!! I returned the greeting, and then I asked "how are you doing?" Well, this young man said "Honestly, I hate Covid. I am so ready ready to get back to normal!"

    Now I wanted to get into the weeds with him about it, but he got off on his floor. It would have been odd to follow him (not to mention rather creepy). So sitting in an outdoor park near my residence, I decided to do a completely unscientific poll. Respondents were asked to identify their mindset towards the next step in what I have come to call the COVID Chapter. The poll found that people fall into four distinct categories:

    45% Vaccinated and ready for a return to normal

    25% Vaccinated but not ready for a return to normal

    25% Unvaccinated and ready for a return to normal

    5% Unvaccinated but not ready for a return to normal

    Now I guess a major element of this question is: What exactly is ‘normal’? For the purpose of our brief discussion today, let’s just say it means ‘returning to past practice”. That past practice might be returning to the office, the classroom, the boardroom, or just going about a routine of life that seems ‘normative’.

    I am sure the above figures are different region by region and sector by sector, but if we all give it a good think – it’s probably pretty spot on. So what is stopping people? Well that was also part of my question (remember I talk to everyone).

    As we got to the heart of it… well it seems to be one simple thing…. “Fear”. Fear of the unknown. Fear of when this will be over? Fear of what ‘normal’ will look like? Fear of whether we will be shut down again and repeat this ‘chapter’ as a new endless loop?

    Now those of you who are in One to One Coaching with me, or who are part of our Group Coaching Mastermind Community, know that a big element of what I teach is that there is a big difference between a ‘feeling’ and a ‘choice’. I can feel like not getting out of bed in the morning because I don’t see the sunshine, but I have to make the choice to get out of bed or I will miss out on my day (not to mention my job).

    So here is a phrase to repeat a lot “Fear is a feeling. Afraid is a choice”

    Fear is outside your control, but staying Afraid is a choice you do control.

    Sometimes we latch on to fear because of something we sense or experience that we did not originate (e.g. being told that we can’t go into the office anymore). So we find ourselves filled with uncertainty, having to adjust, and even isolation associated with not seeing colleagues and friends. We didn’t make the decision, and now all of those emotions culminate into fear. A lot of that is out of our control. But now is where the ‘control part’ begins.

    You can choose to stay ‘afraid’ (meaning to give into the feeling) or you can choose to be ‘our own boss”. A boss sets the tone… so make the choice to set the tone of what you want to do with the feeling (which has come from the circumstance) you are faced with. Circumstances aren’t your boss. Feelings aren’t your boss. The past isn’t your boss. As I often teach, Circumstances are neither negative nor positive. The feeling can be, but the choice we make definitely is. Process the fear (over time), don’t let it be your boss.

    So how do we process the fear?

    Well here is one step in the process - Name it, so you can Claim it. Claim it, so you can Tame it.

    Now, admittly this sounds easier than it sometimes can be, but its important. Name the fears. Write them down. Be honest in your journal (yes you should have one guys). Just like you write down the balance on your bank accounts, or figure out the costs on your new hobby, and write it down somewhere, well do that with what fear is trying to be 'your boss'. This simple process is 'claiming' the fear. Now, its time to "Tame it" and that is a day to day process of looking for it. Becoming aware of when you sense the fear, or feel the fear, or are exposed to the fear in someway. When you do, then Choose, not to give into it, not to allow it, to become your boss!

    I would love to tell you more about how to do that. Why not consider a short connect call, or make the choice and join either One to One Coaching with me, or becoming part of our Group Coaching Mastermind Community. Isn’t it time for you to be ‘Your Own Boss”?

    Remember, it is possible to start living in a way today that will help you thrive tomorrow - so let's #makeitso!


  • What's Next?

    So… what’s next ? And then there's usually a pause. "...especially during a global pandemic?"

    The reason I get this question is because so many people seem to be contemplating a change. Maybe in their lifestyle, living arrangements, daily routine and even in their own career. And the daunting problem with change is that it often travels with its cousin - risk. You can't make changes in life without there being some sort of risk.

    Trust me. I know all about it.

    I've made my share of changes, some after necessity (like better habits following a heart attack in 2014) and others that could be described as risky - none bigger perhaps than when I left the security of a successful job in the non profit sector to launch a private practice.

    I remember all the Blank stares.

    The reality is you can't eliminate risk but you can manage it. And you manage risk by shrinking it. Think of it this way: A career or life change doesn't have to be a leap over the Grand Canyon. It can be managed to be more like a leap over a mud puddle. Sure, you might not make it and you'll get wet and muddy in the process, but you won't plunge thousands of feet below.

    There was a strong possibility that private practice wouldn't work. So, I decided to shrink the gap of the risk. And I want to help those of you considering a change to do the same.

    It's why I've created a free assessment called the Risk Calculator - drop me an email. This assessment will give you a red light, yellow light or green light in terms of where you are, as well as giving you practical next steps on how to manage the risk of each stage.

    Most of all, it will help you avoid being stuck in a place where your season has come to an end. Because, sometimes, the riskiest decision isn't to change.

    Sometimes the riskiest decision is to not change.

    Why not consider jumping on a call with me and we can discuss what's next together - Let’s #Makeitso


  • “Duh moment”

    I entered the restaurant’s rest room and found that the automated lights weren’t working. So, I used the flashlight on my phone to use the facilities. After washing my hands with the phone leaning against the wall, I picked it up to find the door handle and in so doing, found the manual light switch on the wall near the door.  Ever had one of those moments?

    It is a “Duh moment”, but also (come on now be honest), one of those moments you quickly look around to make sure no one saw you! (It’s true and you know it).

    So often a “Duh moment” just makes us chuckle, but they really should make us pause. What presumption did we make in them? What requirement did we demand from it? What lesson can we learn from it? I would like to make the suggestion that a “Duh Moment” can lead us to three persuasive questions that actually give us a lot of insight, and maybe even a chance for an opportunity.

    First, “what was I thinking?”  Now, I mean that question in the best way possible. It’s about asking: “what was on my mind at the moment?” and not “what a door knob I am!” See going in and presuming an automatic light, was a ‘ritual move’, which usually transpires when we have other things on our minds. It is like walking down the stairs, we rarely ‘think’ one foot in front of the other, we just do it (ritual) as we are checking our phones, talking with a person, or tackling a problem. So when a “Duh moment” happens ask yourself “what was I thinking?”  It will give you insight into what you presume, or take for granted in life. It will help you materialize what you “ritualize” and may even lead to some appreciation (or at the very least humility).

    Second, when a “Duh moment” happens, ask “how did I react?” My reaction at the lights was to laugh at myself, rather audibly to be honest. In fact, I chuckled about it all the way back to my seat, and even told the waitress, who probably thought: “well this strange guy won’t be leaving me much of a tip.” How we react gives us an insight into our self-perception on what matters, and can even be a barometer on our stress level or temperment.

    Third, make sure to ask, “so is it an opportunity?” Sometimes the “Duh moment” can be a chance to offer a suggestion, create an innovation, or even start a trend. I watched as a few guys followed and exited the bathroom (that sounded creepy - but you know what I mean). I wasn’t the only one who experienced the ‘surprize’ of no automated lights. Some were laughing, others not so much, and the vast majority – well I guess they are not as “Duh moment” prone as me. But it got me thinking about ways to prevent the surprize, or even remedy it.

    So, next time you have a “Duh moment”, for sure laugh about it, but also, maybe consider asking three insightful questions:

    “What was I thinking?” 

    “How did I react?”

    “So is it an opportunity?”

    Often the lessons you learn are determined by how you look at “ Duh”

    By the way, life in general gives us lots of opportunities to ask insightful questions that can lead not only to deeper self understanding but also greater success. Why not consider jumping on a call with me and Let’s #Makeitso


  • Choosing

    Starbucks' Pumpkin Spice Latte and entire fall menu is back today, which means the season of crunchy leaves and cozy sweaters is almost here!

    While it’s true we don’t have as much control over our lives as we think we do, we can often overlook the control we do have.

    As a result, we can get stuck and stay in a situation for far too long — forgetting we have more choices than fear and insecurity say we do.

    This week, I have found myself asking many of my clients one, overarching question: “What am I choosing?”

    I ask them to question:

    Am I choosing fear over peace?

    Am I choosing security over growth?

    Am I choosing what’s familiar over what might be my new future?

    Am I choosing to be mistreated or am I choosing boundaries?

    Am I choosing my excuses or am I pushing through the barriers?

    Am I allowing what others “might think” dictate what I do?

    Am I willing to be misunderstood in order to stand for what’s right?

    There are times when we have to bravely say, “Enough is enough. I can choose a better path, a better way.”

    Sure, even in that choice, there are a multitude of outcomes which are simply out of our control.

    But even in that, the pathway is one of our choosing.

    And to be clear, fresh pathways have taller grass because it’s the road less traveled.

    But wouldn’t you want to walk a path of your own choosing?

    You see, the reality is that we all walk the path of our own choosing. It’s why, more often than we think, we need to pause, be honest with ourselves and ask:

    “What am I choosing?”

    If I can help you with finding the most life giving answer - why not email me.